A sexual journal can be a gateway to greater sexuality. Growth and enhancement in sexuality is fun and putting your thoughts down on paper can benefit both personal growth and sexuality.But is there really any point to going to all that trouble of writing down sexual thoughts? What is the benefit to us? Sexual journaling can be a healthy part of our lives.Keeping a sexual enhancement journal helps to keep track of your sexual growth. For example inhibitions once written down seem to be somewhat less painful. It is a purging of the soul. A release of inner tension. And the more tension comes out on paper the less likely that tension is to be let loose on our loved ones and colleagues. It has a practicality in its method.Emotional healing is a great benefit of keeping a journal. Writing down your thoughts on paper can release negative emotions. Keeping negative feelings inside of yourself can make you sick in the long run. Releasing them can help heal yourself. Your lover can only take so much negative emotion before the pulling away starts to happen.You can note down your sexual achievements. One way to get good at sex is to do more of it. To experience shared sexuality with someone you are fond of is a gift. If you give more, you receive more. Your journal can be a part of this. If you are on some kind of sexual enhancement program you can record that as well.Use a journal to get in touch with your body . The more in touch you become with your body the more sexually enhanced you can become. This is because you let your real feelings come to the front. Good lovers have a keen sense of touch which enhances their sexuality. Being in touch with your inner feelings and a sense of touch go together.A greater awareness about sex in general will benefit anyone’s sex life. The more awareness you have about sex the more you can enjoy it. The other thing is when you know more you can do more. The benefits of keeping a sexual journal are several. One reason is enough to enhance your sexual journey.
Women who struggle with sexual addiction, relational or love addiction or sexual mismanagement have often times, been affected by various forms of sexual abuse or trauma.During the years I spent leading a sexual addiction recovery group for women at the Willow Creek Community Church (mega-church), I realized that we all had similar pieces to our stories. I found that usually one or more of the following traumas or abuses had occurred during our childhoods.1. Sexual Molestation This could include any adult taking advantage of a child’s sexuality for the adult’s benefit or “high.” It could be inappropriate touch to the child or touching of the adult by the child, intentional exposure of the adult’s genitals to the child, penetration of the child, photographing the child without clothing or watching the child undress. This is not an all-inclusive list.2. Exposure to PornographyThis could have been intentional or unintentional exposure to explicit cable TV movies, porn videos, porn magazines, or internet pornography. This could also be sexually explicit romance novels or cyber sex chat rooms.3. Rape or Sexual AssaultSexual Assault is a sexual act done to a person against their will. This can range anywhere from uninvited touch to non-concentual penetration of any sort. Sexual assault is a crime of violence and power.4. AbortionThis is an operation or other procedure to end a pregnancy by removing an embryo or fetus from a women’s womb.5. Abandonment by FatherThis abandonment could range anywhere from a workaholic dad all the way to a father who physically left the home. The father piece appeared to be a big common factor amongst us. Many didn’t have fathers who emotionally connected with them.Each one of the traumas that I listed above I have seen as common threads among women who are challenged with sexual addiction, love addiction, relationship addiction or just sexual mismanagement. You can see how any of the traumas above could affect a woman’s beliefs about her own self worth and her sexuality.Sexual trauma has the ability to distort a person’s sexual attitudes and can lead to promiscuity, sexual anorexia, detachment during sex, sabotage of intimate relationships or even compulsive sexual behaviors such as solo sex, cyber sex and multiple affairs.If you see yourself in any of the above scenarios, you could benefit from a program that is set up to give you the necessary information about how you wound up on this path, accountability and support for your transformation.
Sexual harassment in the workplace is a serious problem, and although employees know that it exists, many are unsure of what to do if they become a victim. According to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, sexual harassment is defined as “unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature when submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual’s work performance, or creates an intimidating , hostile or offensive work environment.” Title VII of the Civil Rights Act is the main federal law that prohibits sexual harassment. In addition, each state has its own anti-sexual harassment law.Employment lawyer Greg Noble explains, “Sexual harassment really goes beyond just your boss being mean to you. It has to involve some sort of sexual conduct.” This can take the form of a work environment that becomes hostile because of inappropriate sexual comments, insults, or touching. A hostile work environment may also be created through sexual photographs, demeaning jokes, or threats with a sexual undertone.A second type of sexual harassment is known as quid pro quo. According to employment lawyer Greg Noble, this occurs when “your boss is conditioning a benefit of employment on something sexual, such as a date, sex, or anything like that.” Quid pro quo sexual harassment can also occur when someone in a position of authority requests a sexual favor in exchange for not firing or otherwise punishing the employee, or in exchange for a favor such as a raise or promotion.It is important to be aware that if you are the victim of any type of workplace harassment, you cannot simply quit your job. New Jersey employment attorney Kevin Costello explains, “Unfortunately, it’s not so easy to just quit. In order for us to carry remedies for you into court and say that you were forced to resign because of the harassment, it has to be pretty bad. The standard is called ‘conduct which is so extreme and outrageous that no reasonable person could be expected to continue to endure it’…If the harassment is that bad, you do have a right to leave [and] you do have a right to capture lost wages and other lost benefits.” Exactly what kind of behavior qualifies as “extreme and outrageous conduct” varies from case to case, judge to judge, and court to court.Although you cannot quit your job unless the sexual harassment is severe, your employer is obligated to address the issue of harassment and take action to resolve the problem. “It is important that people understand that employers have an obligation under the law not just to prevent unlawful sexual harassment, but when there’s a legitimate complaint about it, to investigate it fully and to take corrective action. If the employers don’t do that, they’re subject to all kinds of penalties,” explains employment attorney Steve Cahn.Educating yourself on both federal sexual harassment laws and your state’s law is an essential step in protecting yourself from becoming a victim of sexual harassment. When you know your rights, you will know when they are being violated and you will be empowered to defend yourself. If you are sexually harassed at work, it is advisable to inform the harasser directly that the conduct is unwelcome and must stop. In addition, you should use any employer complaint mechanism or grievance system available. Finally, it is advisable to speak to an employment lawyer about the situation as soon as possible in order to ensure that your rights are protected and the proper legal procedure for dealing with the harassment is followed.